“Like choosing my friends, why didn’t I have the choice to choose my family too? Since it is the way God wanted family to be, i have accepted that. It is OK you are part of my family and this is forever.” There are questions in life which have to remain unanswered because it will not make sense to find accurate answers. Family is the first thing which comes to mind hen I think about it.
No one has ever chosen to be born in a certain family, with so much siblings, in a particular country ans so on. Only God knows why you had to be part of that specific family. A family is a pace where you learn how to love (unconditional love), respect, to help each other, you basically learn to be a human. But not all families are example of perfect love.
I wanted to share with you something I have read which has changed the way I see family relationships. Family members are not always the way we want them to be or bee supportive or help us here and there. Everyone of them are different. abusive, toxic, you even find family members who sexually abuse their own kids, brothers and sisters. It is perfectly OK to not love abusive and toxic family members. Indeed we might share the same blood and same name but if they are not good for our mental health it is fine to stay away from them.
Stay away from people who are a threat to your inner peace. Don’t let this kind of family bond hold you back and prevent you to see and appreciate the goodness of the world. At the end of the day it is your life.
In a crime series I used to watched they had a really catchy slogan which I like to use whenever I talk to people about family bond. It says: “Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes you deadliest enemies are your closest relatives.”
Are you being yourself?
Till next Sunday