Family bond shouldn’t be for life

“Like choosing my friends, why didn’t I have the choice to choose my family too? Since it is the way God wanted family to be, i have accepted that. It is OK you are part of my family and this is forever.” There are questions in life which have to remain unanswered because it will not make sense to find accurate answers. Family is the first thing which comes to mind hen I think about it.

No one has ever chosen to be born in a certain family, with so much siblings, in a particular country ans so on. Only God knows why you had to be part of that specific family. A family is a pace where you learn how to love (unconditional love), respect, to help each other, you basically learn to be a human. But not all families are example of perfect love.

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I wanted to share with you something I have read which has changed the way I see family relationships. Family members are not always the way we want them to be or bee supportive or help us here and there. Everyone of them are different. abusive, toxic, you even find family members who sexually abuse their own kids, brothers and sisters. It is perfectly OK to not love abusive and toxic family members. Indeed we might share the same blood and same name but if they are not good for our mental health it is fine to stay away from them.

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Stay away from people who are a threat to your inner peace. Don’t let this kind of family bond hold you back and prevent you to see and appreciate the goodness of the world. At the end of the day it is your life.

In a crime series I used to watched they had a really catchy slogan which I like to use whenever I talk to people about family bond. It says: “Blood is thicker than water, but sometimes you deadliest enemies are your closest relatives.”

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Are you being yourself?

Till next Sunday

Be Yourself.

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17 thoughts on “Family bond shouldn’t be for life

  1. True! You can expect only from yourself not from anyone else! Even your family 👪 also! No-one can understand you better than you! But it is not mean that you stop loving them! You have to love your family as the same way you love yourself! But don’t expect them to do the same! Right? 😃

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  2. 👌👌👌Family is the people in your life who want you in theirs, the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who will always stay true to us, the ones who always wishe our happiness.. the ones who come into our life and never left our side.
    This post is so nice👌 thanks again Divine

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  3. Interesting post Divine !!
    The place where you make your first step, where you learned how to pronounce “ Daddy, Mummy “ , where they support and accept you since the very beginning of your life, where they showed you love before anyone else, is Family. Family is everything even though when we get married and separated from our siblings, we still have that strong bond that links us no matter what! Family members are the first to support you in your decision, choices ( marriage) , they will still be there even if they are in different countries, they will still have your side.
    As you said, there is a reason , why God decided to put everyone of us in our family. He knows why!
    Don’t just start being recessive with your family members.
    The key is to know in what kind of family you are! If you look back at your life, you will have the answer to the type of family you are into. From there you will see if family members are really your closest enemy or not.
    For people who get abused or maltreated by family members, the rescuer is God! They needs to invite him in their families because family is meant to be a place where Love is the air they breathe ! (Don’t do to others what you will not want to get back !! ) A place where peace and love reigns is a place where God Himself dwells.

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      1. Yeah! He knows! Sometimes it is people’s behavior that pushes God to leave their lives, families…and to get the family reunited, they needs to invite him, to call him back in their lives!!

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  4. Interrestingly** enough a friend of mine and I were talking about this subject today. Right on! We do not get to choose our families , countries of birth, genders (although in this day and age , a lot of people are changing that), races, and so on… It’s true some people find themselves with very abusive families and others with loving families… To those that find themselves in **bad** families , when they realize they are in such families, my advice to them is to Love those family members ( truly love them). My fav quote ” Love is the most powerful force in the Universe”. By loving them and showing then what a family should be like or what love should be like, I’m sure one day those abusive family members will change… it may take a day, a month, a year , 10 years…. but the sure thing is that this WILL HAPPEN with LOVE.
    This is just me…. but to each , it’s own ☺.

    PS.. Keep up the good work, Diva!

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    1. “Love is the most powerful force in the universe” indeed. It is important to love one another. But you don’t have to stay in that house and endure 10 years of abuse and wait for them to change. It’s ok to move out and still pray for them to change wherever they are.

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  5. Family members and especially parents are not always going to be you’re super heroes. That’s okay. It’s okay to detach from it they’re not treating you well. To love them from afar and hope they change is all u can do.
    Love this post and thanks for sharing this !

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  6. A few years ago, I started treating all relationships the same, family, friend, etc. Needless to say, my family didn’t seem to be happy about this change, but it’s helped me to release lopsided obligations that family sometimes put on you just because “you’re family.” Anywho, just thought I’d share. This is working for me.

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