Everything today seems designed to give priority to people around us: work, family, volunteer work, general society obligation or self imposed on us. We sometimes even feel guilty for making time for ourselves and we push our needs aside. When we are not at our best, we cannot give the best to others, creating time for yourself will give you clarity and energy to be your best self. Here are 9+ things you should do to make yourself a priority in your own life.
How to prioritize yourself: 9+ ways
1. take time for yourself
Don’t feel guilty or apologize for it, take time to be with yourself. Meditate, journal, pray or anything else that calms your mind and thoughts and allow you to reflect and connect with your inner self. Find time or better create time to be with yourself and meet your needs.
2. Don’t neglect your needs
If you do not prioritize your needs, nobody else will take that responsibility for you. Get familiar and understand your various needs and find the best way to satisfy them. remember it is impossible to pour from an empty cup, you need to fill your cup first before trying to fill someone else’s cup.
3. You owe nobody any explanation
Stop feeling guilty, how you live your life, your beliefs, your values, the decisions you make are nobody businesses but yours. You don’t have to justify yourself when someone doesn’t understand the way you live your life. You don’t have to explain yourself to everyone you talk to. You owe nobody any explanation on how you take care of yourself.
4. Don’t do anything you don’t want to
If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. If you don’t want to do it, please spare yourself and don’t do it. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do anything that is outside of your comfort zone or things that make you feel uncomfortable at first. However, it is important to learn to make the difference between something inconvenient and something that just go against who you are. Stay true to yourself and don’t do what you don’t want to do.
5. Remember YOU ARE ENOUGH
Whether you believe it or not, you are enough and you are worth it. Instead of thinking about who you are not, take time and appreciate who you are and celebrate your individuality.
6. Recognize and appreciate the people who are uplifting in your life
Friendship is not an unbreakable commitment, if you are sacrificing your own happiness and well being, if you are miserable, you might as well change friends and move on. Stay closer to people that feel like sunshine. Appreciate those who are present in your life, show you and remind you who you are when you forget. Appreciate the ones that are there to support you and allow you to be yourself without making you feel bad for doing what best for you. Appreciate the folks who have been supporting you in your personal growth journey.
7. Stop saying yes to everyone and anything
It will save you time, energy, drama and unnecessary commitment. Do not be known as the go to person in your circle of friends whenever people don’t want to do something by themselves, you are there to do their dirty works and bail them out every single week. You do not have to carry the world problems on your shoulders. Set yourself free by saying no thank you.
8. BE strong enough to ask for help
You have limits like everyone else, you can only do much. Don’t be afraid to ask for help from the people who are heading where you are going and those who have been through what you are going through. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, there is joy in opening up and connecting with others.
9. Reflect on what you do
Think before you do things, it is a good way to learn more about yourself. Question everything you know and do, unlearn unconscious habits you might have picked up and re learn new ones. You cannot prioritize yourself if you don’t understand why you do the way you do it. Reflect on what you do.
10. Believe in yourself
It is easy to say it “believe in yourself” but you have to truly believe it in your heart and practice it daily. Make it a priority little by little, believe in yourself and truly feel it. See related post When you say Being Yourself, in what way?
11. Speak kindly to yourself
The way you speak and treat yourself matter the most, don’t let anyone fool you, what you tell yourself everyday matter. Speak to yourself as if you are speaking to someone you really care about, respect and love. Check out this post 22+ daily affirmations to boost self confidence
Making yourself a priority doesn’t mean you are being selffish and forgetting about others. You are just letting yourself become a better versio of yoourself so you can do more for others.
How can you make yourself a priority today?
Till next Sunday